Today is a beautiful pre fall day in Northeastern US. That time of year when parents and kids are picking out new school clothes, binders, back packs, lunch boxes, or perhaps buying laptops and bedding to go away to college for the first time. Fun times and new milestones in our children's lives. These are all the things I remember my daughter and son and I loved to do... For parents who's children are now "living in Spirit" this can be be a source of big grief triggers. Whil

Today I am more clear than ever that peace of mind, ease in my daily life, feeling free (which is truly an inside job) is a CHOICE OF MINDSET. I cannot be free but through my mindset! And I must say this does not and did not happen by me just twitching my nose and blinking my eyes like Dream of Jeannie! It has taken years of consistent seeking of Truth which is recognized by the heart NOT the mind. It has and is coming from many resources and with the guidance and support of

I have read many books related to Grief and Life after Death. One in particular that really made me feel better and confirmed my own beliefs, is Dr. Eben Alexander's book called Proof Of Heaven. For those of you who do not know his story, Dr. Alexander is an Ivy league (I think Harvard) trained Neuro Surgeon. He had a deadly bacterial brain infection that according to him he should not have come back from. He expected that he would have stayed in a persistent vegetative state

Shame and guilt are expressions of fear.The fear of those who criticize, and find fault. Our children who have died because of addictions and suicide are not defined by how old they are when they leave this planet NOR and MOST IMPORTANTLY HOW they died. Yes. Their death does not define them in any way! Souls who are in human form are very creative and specifically choose how they are going to "GO Home" . While some human beings have a sense of their souls journey and it's pla

The Grief experience can be extremely hard, specifically when it is caused by the physical separation from a loved one by death. However, it can be learned from and we can grow and heal. Or we can succumb to it and become more bitter, hold onto and defend the limiting beliefs which are eating away at our life energy. Believe it or not both are choices… Too often in the shock and tsunami of emotions in the beginning of this often unchartered albeit common life experience, we

I took my dog for a walk this morning and we met a neighbor and her two "weiner" dogs...As our dogs did their own "greeting thing" she and I chatted. She was the younger sister of a childhood friend of Katie's...A young woman herself now, out of college and teaching, home visiting her family. Nice to hear how everyone was doing, how their lives were flowing over the last 15 years since our families met and related as parents of two childhood girlfriends. As we went our separa

Myths of Grief Grief and Mourning are Synonymous No. Grief is the natural internal response of your body, central nervous system, mind and emotions to any change in your life. Big or small by your standards. Death of a loved one or retirement from a job, moving to a new home, getting left back in grade school, death of a pet hamster, etc.. Anything can cause a grief response. Mourning is the way to heal and release the grief and come to a place of peaceful coexistence and hom

The death of a loved one, in my case my daughter, causes all kinds of mental, emotional social, physical and spiritual reactions and responses. Our mind and possibly other people start telling us things, start using words and phrases that we then take to heart, and believe although they are more often than not LIES! And even worse they cause extra pain and make the grief of the final separation from our loved one even worse! My intention here is to help inform and enlighten t

It is very common for people who are grieving after a trauma as the death of a loved one, to wonder "Will I ever feel normal again? Or will my life ever get back to normal? Or other people, in so many words, imply that you are not "your normal self"! One of the biggest contributors to grief is comparing ourselves to others, to how we used to be, used to feel,used to live and “shoulds” about how we should be, which boils down to the question in our mind—“Are we “BEING NORMAL?

StartFragment A Mom's Journey: What I Know So Far I was almost thirty five when I became a mother for the first time. I thought because I was an "older" first time mom, I had it all figured out, it would be a piece of cake! HA ! WAS I EVER WRONG! It was not about my children per se, I just had a lot of preconceive beliefs, expectations that were unrealistic, wrong, silly albeit mixed in with a lot of good mature stuff... I wish I knew then what I know now about what I am shar